It’s so obvious in a way but easy to forget.

If I don't do something properly, then people who are affected by it may suffer to some extent or simply be inconvenienced. It feels selfish and also stressful and embarrassing.

I will take in lots of detail of my environment, the people in it and how that makes me feel, and what people say or do and what that could mean. I often feel three steps ahead of everyone else, anticipating different situations and outcomes. It’s very emotionally and mentally draining at times, but I can’t seem to help it!

The current professional norm is that you, the coach or facilitator in the room, are the expert. So it's very common for both coaches to introduce themselves by sharing their experience, their roles, CVs and name-drops. My co-facilitator norm is to let the relationship and presence lead - so we are in service of co-creation with the room and enable a deeper experience to unfold.

Parkinsons makes me stiff I sit still too long

I don’t drive. But I used to actively avoid being in situations where people would offer me a lift simply because I felt they thought it was not normal. It’s a little thing but not one I normally share. I feel I have to explain why

People tend to start talking to me while I’m reading in my local pub, just because they know me. Or despite knowing me. There is a pressure to be social.